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Hello Debbie, Im Hollie From Hawaii, 44 yrs old mother of two grown boys. Married my high school sweetheart, Blaine.We’ve been together since I was 14 yrs old. We Love the Lord dearly! Im afraid I have disappointed the Lord and my husband long enough, by not keeping the house clean. I work full time and I am always so very tired. I only have one day off.So it never gets done. Thankyou , Debbie! I have looked everywhere on the web and found nothing about being a better wife in such specific terms as you explain! Ive felt lost for so long, you have encouraged me! You are the only one I have found on line encouraging wives to get it together. May Our Heavenly Father Protect and Bless you and your family for all your doing for christian wives because the days are wicked and the devil is cunning. So he’s convinced me that I don’t need to clean the house. Now its a disaster! Im to overwhelmed to even really begin. If all you can do is pray for me that I can accomplish mess, and keep it clean. That will be enough for me! All the windows are shut in my house . No one can come over. There is not one counter to my purse down anywhere. Or to eat a meal together. I just need any advice or encouragement from you. You are a woman of God, which is hard to find in this world today. The Lord is doing many amazing works in your life that you have such fantastic videos of encouragement ! Keep up the wonderful work ! Thankyou Debbie!
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I can sat that this resonates in my life too Hollie, I feel overwhelmed and go the other direction because it seems impossible to attack one area, and still not make progress because you keep seeing the other spaces and don’t know what to do with any of it, so it makes you freeze. First, remember that Jesus was glad for Mary who sat before Him, while Martha was seeing all that needed to be done… He needs you at His feet, first.
Second, feel lighter by praying upwards, to the Father that says to give up your burdens, knowing full well, that we hang on to them but it is a block that keeps us away from Him.
Third, grace my friend, talk grace to your family…be real, not blaming yourself. You have family, work, and yourself, that is much to look after. It is ok and you can make baby steps to joy. Sit with your family and say truth. Truth stands alone, a fact, a stepping stone. Tell them how you have this weight and it is a real burden to your spirit. Say out loud so they see how it has affected you. Do NOT take this as you let them and you and God down. INSTEAD, (pray first) give words of love and ask for their help to get to a good place where you feel freedom of happiness again. Suggest to work together for the goal of going through a room, one room first. Kitchens, bathrooms, living room, hall closet (maybe make a list together and cut each on a single strip and put in a jar and pull one out each week. )
This is a family, work as a family together, then see it grow… your joy, their closeness and respect.
Another tip…purge… put a few boxes out for each area and take a box as soon as they fill, to donate for another needy family. Less becomes manageable and happier.
Lastly, you are loved already, God, your family, and friends love YOU, they chose You because you are Important to each of them, but mostly to God, your Father. You are good, you are worth it, you have much more to offer. Be a leader in getting your family to see real issues in your spirit, don’t be happy go lucky for them and try to cover all this as if it is a burden you have to carry… get going my dear, joy is in this process, get back to Jesus’ feet. He loves to sit with us!!!
Hi Hollie. I am so VERY sorry, but for some reason, I never saw your question/comment back in 2018. Good grief!! I’m sure you have found ways to get your house organized by now. 🙂 How are things going for you?
HI DEBBIE ITS ME VERA.
There’s someone from North Carolina called Fly Lady. She teaches how to keep house one baby step at a time if that helps anyone. Presently learning it myself…